Sexual Healing Process

Illness and injury are no friends of good sexual functioning. For some individuals, the loss or decrease of sexual function associated with illness or injury is not really the principal issue. For them, issues of survival, mobility, and financial security dominate their concerns and attention. But for others, the loss of sexual function is an additional major crisis. What had been central in their lives is now gone—or, at best, severely compromised.

It seems that those who value sex most in their lives are those who are most distraught by its loss. Two groups of men come to mind here. In the first group are young men, usually macho men, who have sustained a spinal cord injury from a motorcycle accident or a purposeful gunshot to the sacral spine in an execution-style hit. These young men are devastated by the results of their spinal injuries. For many, the loss of sexual function is the most serious loss they could possibly imagine, let alone sustain. In the second group are older men who have had a radical prostatectomy. If sex has been a central expression in their relationship with wife or partner, then the loss of the sexual function is a major element to be addressed in their recovery from the surgery.

Among women who sustain a similar loss are those whose sense of womanhood has been assaulted by illness, injury, or medical or surgical treatment. Surgeries such as mastectomy and vulvectomy, chemotherapies, and colostomies are for some—but certainly not all—women a major challenge to feeling attractive and, perhaps, lovable. Like the men, these women require that the sexual loss be addressed in any comprehensive healing process.


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